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Firstly, if you need to ask this question then you already have a big problem. Whether you’re actually bad in bed or just low on confidence, you need to face this issue head on.

For many, the problem lies in the fact that it takes a man with lot of experience to know i if his partner a has an orgasm or if she’s faking it.

Even the most of experienced men can’t always tell if the woman’s faking it or not.

So fellas you can never be sure that your performance is top quality.

Loosing confidence in yourself and throwing good self-esteem out the window just because of the worry you may have, can actually make your sex life decline much much more.

Alot of the time a sexual encounter will go down in history as the worst lay ever..and its usually the fella who is too busy wondering if he pleasing her or if he has a big enough cock.

Fellas regardless of size, work with what you have and believe me when i say this, size does not matter…Its how you use it…yes i am female.

Many things also can put a dampener on your bedroom boogey with her, such as stress. We do live in a stressful world and many people dont get the chance to even have sex as often as they would love to, as we are working longer hours nowadays, let alone the time to think about if he is good enough for her.

Stress is one of the great “sex killers” nowadays because no man can truly enjoy himself if he keeps thinking about deadlines, bosses, problems with co workers, credit card debt and mortgages.

Stress also leads to some men drinking to “relax” and we all know the majority of men cannot perform to full ability with a gut full of booze..

Men need to recognize for themselves the early signs of stress in their lives and take control of the situation.

Once you’ve started asking yourself questions about your performance you could easily slide into a rut where low self esteem takes over, thus performing like a fish.

Turning it around and thinking a bit more positive about things, will greatly improve the sex life.

I am not just talking about your weapon not standing to attention though.

You may need to learn some new positions and break the boring bedroom routine a bit. Try new positions, fantasies, roll play, masturbation, oral sex.

All of these sexual activities yes you have probably done, but take the chance and improve it, take it out of the safety zone of what you have only ever done. All sexual activities, no matter how bad or good they may feel, can always be improved because believe me the more you try new things the more she will respond. Yes somethings she will hate, but its trial and error and sooner or later the question you keep asking yourself about your performance, will no longer come into play for your thoughts.

Bottom line is….listen to your partner, listen to her breathing, her responses to certain touches or activities.

Most couples settle for just having a 10min quicky, rolling over and saying good night.

If you want your relationship to work, then put the effort in to begin with.

IF you are married, all the more reason to start trying new things to keep your sex life active and hot, because you both trust each other and should be able to discuss what you want openly with partner, no matter how “freaky” it may sound.

At the end of the day, only you can decide to change what is bothering you.

Because chances are, if you are struggling with thoughts on your performance, she will be too.

Sex is sex, and is meant to be great, not a bore or a worry. If it has become that, then odds are she thinks exactly the same way and you both need further help if wanting your relationship to work.

 

Its 50/50 all the way down the line when comes to sex. So ladies you are not off the hook either. Get off your backs and bring spark into the bedroom.

Step into this century and take a firm hold of what sex has to offer these days, whether you are single, gay, lesbian or married.

 

I am a firm believer in….

“What you put out there from yourself, is what you get returned.”

 

If you expect a damn good lay, then become one, its not all put on the men for responsibility, to make sure you get a good banging.

Two people fuck, so two people must be involved, meaning he doesnt do all the work

 

 

 

Last Modified: March 12th, 2008
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