When a woman reaches a certain high level of sexual excitement, her labia
changes color. The color change indicates that orgasm can occur if enough stimulation continues.
At the same time that the color change happens, the labia becomes larger
because of the increased blood flow that results from her arousal. When
sexual stimulation stops, both the larger outer lips and the smaller inner
lips return to their usual size and shape within a short period of time.
Women’s genitals vary greatly in appearance. There are
differences in size, colour, shape, texture and distribution of pubic hair, and in the appearance of the clitoris and vaginal opening. All of the different shapes, sizes and
colours etc are normal.
Many women do not like the look of their genitals, believing it is ugly or disgusting because they appear to them, for whatever reason, to be abnormal. No one is the same ladies
The clitoris is the female sexual organ found where the labia minora, or
inner lips, meet. It is a rounded area or head, called the glans.
The tissue of the inner lips normally covers the shaft of the clitoris, which makes a hood to protect it. The only visible part of the clitoris is the glans, which looks like a small, shiny button. YEP fellas you know exactly bout that button!
The amount of nerve endings in the clitoris makes it extremely sensitive to
direct or indirect touch or pressure. Stimulation on this area can be very pleasurable.
In fact, sexual pleasure is the organ’s only known function, and the clitoris is the only organ with pleasure as its sole function. It has nothing to do with getting pregnant, with menstruation (periods) or with using the ladies room.
When a woman becomes sexually aroused,the glans and the shaft fill
with blood and increase in size. There is no evidence that a larger clitoris means more intense sexual arousal, probably just more to enjoy for the fellas haha!
As stimulation continues and orgasm approaches…WOOOHHHOOOOO!! …AHHEMM where were we.. oh yes…. the clitoris becomes less visible as it is covered by the swelling of tissues of the clitoral hood.
This swelling protects the clitoris from direct contact, because fellas for some women, can be more irritating than pleasurable. It moves out again when the stimulation stops.
After orgasm the clitoris returns to normal size. If the woman doesn’t have an orgasm, the blood that has flowed into the clitoris as a result of sexual arousal may remain there, keeping the clitoris blown up for a few hours. Many women find this uncomfortable, and become frustrated. SO GIVE HER THE ORGASM or give her something to ease her pain AHHHH
A woman’s clit can be stimulated through direct or indirect contact.
During intercourse the penis does not come into direct contact with the clitoris . The
thrusting of the penis in the vagina, regardless of the position used, doggy, missionary, on top, upside down or what ever freaky moves you do help to move the labia , and it is this movment of the lips against the clit that mainly creates the orgasm.
Direct contact with the clitoris by touching it with a finger, vibrator, or
a tongue can cause more discomfort than pleasure for many women. Or make them just want to punch the shit out of you. For these women, generally rubbing or licking of the area around the clitoris feels better. Other women enjoy direct stimulation.
There is great difference with sensitivity in the clitoris and each woman.
It basically comes down to knowing your body, knowing her body and doing what works for you both. Many women spend a lifetime just having sex but never feelin the intense pleasure of what an orgasm is. It is nothin to do with the fact that they are abnormal or he is not doing it right. (well ok sometimes) haha, but more to the point that she has not discovered that she has a tiny button there that is meant to make her squirm.
Discovery, people! .. is the key!
Stop sittin infront of the tube or on the computer, and get in touch with your sexuality.
Grab a torch, grab some toys, do what ever but get off the chair and awaken your sexual senses. A half hour sex session burns more calories than you might realise too. So get excercising people!
Merry Xmas to all and remember we all have a certain kinkiness , just some people are harder to let inhibitions go.
This has been your friendly naughty santa Dee from theloveshop
“reveal your inner naughtiness”
Orgasm control,also known as extended orgasm is a sexual technique
involving the active partner taking control over the passive partner’s orgasm.
The technique is practised by anybody, regardless of sexual preferences.
Commonly , the active partner will give slow, gentle stimulation to the
passive partner, building them up to the very high point erotically
where an orgasm is imminent , (whether it be the use of toys or the active partner themselves doing all the work.) but will then reduce the level of stimulation just below that needed to trigger the orgasm.
By varying the intensity of stimulation, the passive partner is kept in this highly-aroused state state of mind and very close to orgasm.
This can continue for sometime as a part of foreplay or sexual intercourse itself. The passive partner might be given time for a break to recover from the hightened state before the technique is repeated.
It can be repeated as often as desired, but usually after a few repeats the passive partner’s urge to orgasm can become overwhelming, and you may find he or she will be willing to tear you to bits at this point just so to get the relief of which the must sought after orgasm brings… (for alot of you men , this will turn you on seeing your partner begging for it)
When the active partner eventually gives the passive partner an orgasm, the orgasm itself is usually stronger than usual from the increased tension and yearning that builds up during the constant stimulation.
Orgasm control is to prolong the powerful sexual sensations that occur during the final build-up to orgasm. . The physical demands of being kept in this highly excited state
for some time can highten a very pleasurable, state in the passive partner.
A caring active partner will also recieve pleasure from witnessing his/her partner in such an excited state.
Orgasm control demands a high degree of skill of the active partner, enough familiarity to be able to correctly react to their partner’s responses, and to get the intensity and timing of the stimulation just right.
If there is not enough stimulation or if it is slowed down too soon, the experience is not as intense as the passive partner had antisipated .
Too much stimulation or for too long allows the passive partner to reach the ‘boiling point’, causing the orgasm to occur too early. The real skill lies bewtween the lovers and knowing one’s partner, well enough to be able to keep them squirming to the very edge of orgasm, and then maximizing the experience.
Finally, and at a time of their choosing, the active partner will slowly bring the other right up to the point of orgasm as earlier, but this time continues and/or slightly increases the stimulation for the few extra seconds needed to drive their partner into
orgasm, and into a state of pure ecstasy.
As the active partner needs to already be familiar with the passive partner’s responses, this technique is more likely to succeed when used with established relationships, rather than more casual ‘one-off’, as a one night stand etc will not allow any partner to truely know the other ones body and how it works.
Orgasm control totally differs from the BDSM practices of orgasm denial, tie and
tease and tease and denial because the aim is the giving and receiving of the intense sensations involved, and the period of control is limited to a single encounter which ends in orgasm.
Solo masturbation allows for total control over the feelings and
timing of stimulation, one oneself. Many people practice certain forms of orgasm control by themselves.
This practise known as “stop-and-go” or “edging” is
where one will masturbate up until the moment before reaching point of
no return at which point climax results, then back down before
experiencing a climax.
By repeating this technique several times during a single session it will result in a stronger, more intense climax when they finally allow themselves to go “over the edge” to the point of no control. BINGO YOU HAVE ORGASM!
If you know your partner well enough and know their bodies, especially if your partner is female, you should know very well if she is faking it.
Physically a female cannot fake orgasm if she tries. Oh yeh sure we can all moan and groan and say “oooo baby, mmmm yeah”. That does not mean she had an orgasm just because you may have.
Her body will tell you whether she has faked it or not, as once orgasm is reached she has no control over her genitals spasming. It cant be helped fellas, and no her squeezing is not her orgasm. Any female can squeeze and control her muscles, its called pelvic floor muscle control. Orgasm is different, there is no control
There is a big difference between the two. Take notice and see for yourselves.
Masturbation is sexual stimulation, especially on ones own genitals
and very often to the point of orgasm, which is performed manually,or by other
types of body contact or by use of objects, including fingers, toys or tools, or by some combination of all of these. It is not sexual intercourse
Masturbation is the most common form of self pleasure , and then here is mutual masturbation. Woohoo people get into it.
We find terms such as “pleasuring oneself,”
“wanking,” “jerking off,” “spanking the monkey,” “choking the chicken,”
“beating the meat,” as well as many others.
Ways of masturbating that is well known to members of both sexes,include pressing or
rubbing the genital area.
Either with the fingers or against an object such as a cushion
-inserting fingers or an object into the anus
Members of both sexes also enjoy touching, rubbing, or pinching the nipples or other erogenous zones while masturbating. Both sexes sometimes apply lubricating substances
to intensify sensation. Many gels, lubes and lotions are available to increase orgasm if that is the desired effect.
Viewing pornography,(dvds or magazines) or sexual fantasy, are often common in the aid of masturbation.
Often people will use memories for masturbation.
Masturbation activities are often ritualised.Various fetishes and other fantasies can also play a part in the masturbation ritual. Some potentially harmful or fatal activities include self-bondage.
Some people get sexual pleasure by inserting objects into the urethra (the
tube through which urine and , in men, semen, flows.)
The practice is known as sounding.
Other objects such as pens, thermometers and cue tips are sometimes used, although this
practice canbe extremely dangerous lead to injury or infection, or both.
Men and women may masturbate until they are close to orgasm, stop for a
while to reduce the excitement, and then resume masturbating.
They may repeat this method a multiple times. This “stop and start ” build up can achieve even stronger orgasms.
Its rare, people quit stimulation just before orgasm to retain the heightened
energy that normally comes down after orgasm due to the release of
hormone. Doing this could lead to temporary discomfort due to
Female masturbation includes a woman stroking or rubbing her
vulva, especially her clitoris, with her index and/or middle fingers.
some occasions one or more fingers may be inserted into her vagina to repeatedly
stroke the frontal wall of her vagina where her g-spot is found
Many women caress their breasts or stimulate a nipple with the free hand, if these are areas enjoyed during sexual stimulation.
Anal stimulation is also enjoyed by some.
Lubrication is sometimes used during masturbation, especially when
penetration is involved, but many women find their
natural lubrication sufficient.Unless its anal stimulation.
Common positions include lying on back or face down, sitting, squatting,
kneeling or standing. In a bath or shower many a female enjoys tap water aimed
her clitoris and vulva.
Lying face down one may use the hands, one may
straddle a pillow, the corner or edge of the bed, a partner’s leg or some
scrunched-up clothing and “hump” her vulva and clitoris against it.
Standing up, a chair, the corner of an item of furniture or even a washing machine
can be used to stimulate her clitoris through her labia and clothing.
Women can sexually stimulate themselves by crossing their legs tightly and
clenching the muscles in their legs, forcing pressure on the genitals. Yes we are clever little things fellas ..
This can potentially be done in public without observers noticing.
Some masturbate using only pressure applied to the clitoris without direct
contact, for example by pressing the palm or ball of the hand against
underwear or other clothing.
Thoughts, fantasies and memories of previous instances promote arousal and orgasm
Male masturbation is influenced by a number of factors and
personal preferences and tastes. Techniques may also differ between circumcised and
uncircumcised males, as some techniques which may work for some can be
quite painful for the other.
The most common male masturbation technique is to hold the penis with
a loose fist and then to move the hand up and down the shaft until orgasm
and ejaculation take place.
The speed of the hand motion will vary from male
to male, and usually the speed increases as
ejaculation nears and for it to decrease during the ejaculation itself.
When uncircumcised, stimulation of the penis in this way comes from the “pumping”
of the foreskin.
This gliding motion of the foreskin reduces friction.
When circumcised, there is more direct contact between the hand and the glans,
hence personal lubricant is sometimes used to reduce friction.
Sometimes, if too much pressure is applied, it may be rubbed sore for a time.
Circumcised or not, men may rub or massage the glans.
A less common technique is to lie face down on a comfortable surface such as a mattress or pillow and rub the penis against it until orgasm is achieved. This technique
can also include the use of an artificial vagina.
There are many way for male masturbation techniques. Some men
place both hands directly on their penis during masturbation.
While others use their free hand to massage their testicles, nipples, or other parts of
Some may keep their hand stationary while pumping into it with
pelvic thrusts in order to simulate the motions of sexual intercourse.
Others may also use vibrators and other sexual toys, more common associated with female masturbation.
The prostate gland is one of the organs that contributes fluid to semen.
As the prostate is touch-sensitive, some directly stimulate it using a
well-lubricated finger or dildo inserted through the anus into the rectum.
It is another way to hit the male g spot also .
Its all about self pleasure, and each to their own. These days it is no longer frowned upon as a dirty deed, but yet so many people still deny they do it.
There is no shame in it, and honestly if you can have someone play with you, then all the more fun.
HAVE FUN PEOPLE