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Many couples these days experiment on a wide range of sexual activities, in and out of the bedroom. Sex now days is widely spoken about and is not so much taboo in this century as it used to be.
But where do we set boundaries?
How do we know if we have crossed the line in our trusting partners?
Where, perhaps the fun of our sex lives has become so openly spoken about that now people enjoy going outside their relationship or marriage.

So here we discuss, infedelity versus an open relationship. Is there a difference?
Well the answer to that question only you can decide, as it really depends on the trust you have in your relationship.
Many people live by the rule….I love him/her, but i not getting what i used to from them anymore, so they go elsewhere with the thoughts of “what they dont know cant hurt them”.
Yes that comment is true… to a point in my opinion.
I have travelled down this road myself, with me being the culprit for doing it and also being on the recieving end. Bottom line is, if you want extra relationships then maybe its smarter to discuss it with your partner before you do the dirty and cheat.

Cheating and an open relationship has 2 very different meanings.
Cheating is just you going out and gettin rocks off behind your spouses back, and still going home to them and pretending all is ok. Yes you have guilt and fear that you will get caught. Well chances are readers, many people do get caught..eventually…I DID.
Being open and allowing your partner to go outside the relationship also will stop any deception, but you may also want to ask yourself, do you want your partner being screwed by someone else?
It sounds fair game with you being allowed doesnt it?
But turn the tables, and if you are not bothered by the thought of some one poking your missus, or jumping on your mans tool then perhaps an open relationship might be just your answer.

There are pros and cons for swinging, openess etc. Pros being you can sleep with anyone you wish as long as your partner usually knows about it and of course safe sex is practised ( you dont want to be bringing disease home).
It can usually improve your sex life at home with a loved one, but…….
on the other hand be warned, once you cross that line you may not be able to turn back and many relationships fall apart because couples like the idea of being able to spread their wings but when it actually happens, many people get hurt often because they really didnt expect their partner to enjoy it as much as he/she does.

So we get back to the cheating aspect. Many women and men cheat because its a thrill being able to get a bit of action away from their partner. No it doesnt mean it is right, but it happens.
More often than not, many of these people have the best excuses for it and often try telling themelves that too.
In the long run it is up to the individual.. but heed my warning, if you must do it (which you dont need to) then make sure it is with someone who can be trusted! No one else knows…(not even your closest friend) and the person you doing it with has the same motives. NO STRINGS, NO EMOTIONS, NO RULE BREAKING. I wont say its bad or good with the cheating aspect,as its not my place. But i have been there when i was younger,like i said, on both ends, infact a few times and i cannot lay judgement on anyone, just opinions.
Its personal choice and be willing to take the consequences if you do it and get caught.

In final i say be honest with yourself and the people around you. If you cant be, then take a fools advice, dont do it for revenge as it doesnt solve anything and dont do it just because you think you can.
My only advice is for anyone, its best to keep it real and if you really go ahead with cheating or open relationship, then make sure you know what you are getting into, and make sure you can live with your decisions.

Best of luck and happy humping