Great Lover?

15 Apr 08

Great Lover?

Most men aren’t clear on what they think makes for a a great lover , but many would give their left nut to become one.

So what make his partner sigh and want more?

What makes a man so appealing and successful with women?

First off, women like to be listened to. Yes it sounds corny but its true with many women.

Alot of women like to feel that they are communicating and one with their partner, and they are more likely to feel relaxed with him when they have intercourse . Being more relaxed can lead to better sex.

Also a man that pays attention to his partner will make her feel like she is important and not just another body to him. (yes including the one night stands fellas)

Most men that women consider great lovers actually are the type of men who arent selfish and focus on his lover.. That makes a big difference from a man who just doesnt realise sex is meant for two. Not just him getting off and thats it!.. Men like this are either

1-ignorant and not worth it

2- inexperienced and have no idea she needs to get off too.Its not all about him.

Also a man who touches women gently and doesn’t rush when he is kissing, touching or stroking makes a woman feel good Women like foreplay and many need that arousal as women are not the same as men and cant just be ready when expected.

So many men want to get through the kissing and the foreplay in a rush and go straight to the sex, but women don’t feel that way. It certainly isn’t the way to excite and stimulate most women.

And of course, what really makes a great lover ,is the fact he knows her body. He knows that most women are turned on by gentle bites on the neck and throat while being held from behind. He knows that gently pulling her head back with her hair while kissing her is very exciting for a lot of women.

He also pays attention during sex, and listens to the sounds she makes - or doesn’t make.

He works his way gradually and around her body. If something makes her pull back, and if he is paying enough attention to her, he will stop immediately knowing she doesnt like it. Move onto something else.

The lover a woman remembers afterward,isnt someone who just stuck his tool in her and had sex and that is it. It also isnt a male who rolls off and leaves or stands up to shake off and take a piss 5min later. Take notice fellas, women require the full focus on them. A great lover isnt just someone who shags shit outta them, it starts from forplay , right through to after intercourse.
What keeps most men from becomin great lovers truely is selfishness and seeing some women as trophies or goals. Alot of men, (not all) set out on a goal to just give her a poke and boast about his catch. Guys she aint boasting about you when you do this. All the while, while you are smiling about your conquer with your mates , she is more than likely telling her mates too, but not that you were a good lay. No woman will ever boast that she got it good if he just gives a few shoves and thats it. She is tellin her friends and herself “never again”

So you see, its important, whether casual sex or something more commited that both parties enjoy the sex. He can get off anyway and we all know this, but get her turned on and she will become the wild animal you want, but in return you must satisfy her also.

Bottom line is, we are all responsible for our sexual side. What you put out is what you will get returned. No woman will return to the same man if he is dead in bed and doesnt get her off. Her vibrator will do it for her and he will soon become used to his hand if he continues not to take notice of any of his partners.

At the end of the day if you are thinkin “is it me” then really stop and think…

If she makes excuses not to be with you again, its usually because she doesnt know how to tell you, …you just dont do it for her.

A great lover is…….

Considerate, not selfish and takes notice and full focus on his partner.