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Orgasm control,also known as extended orgasm is a sexual technique
involving the active partner taking control over the passive partner’s orgasm.
The technique is practised by anybody, regardless of sexual preferences.

Commonly , the active partner will give slow, gentle stimulation to the
passive partner, building them up to the very high point erotically
where an orgasm is imminent , (whether it be the use of toys or the active partner themselves doing all the work.) but will then reduce the level of stimulation just below that needed to trigger the orgasm.

By varying the intensity of stimulation, the passive partner is kept in this highly-aroused state state of mind and very close to orgasm.

This can continue for sometime as a part of foreplay or sexual intercourse itself. The passive partner might be given time for a break to recover from the hightened state before the technique is repeated.

It can be repeated as often as desired, but usually after a few repeats the passive partner’s urge to orgasm can become overwhelming, and you may find he or she will be willing to tear you to bits at this point just so to get the relief of which the must sought after orgasm brings… (for alot of you men , this will turn you on seeing your partner begging for it)

When the active partner eventually gives the passive partner an orgasm, the orgasm itself is usually stronger than usual from the increased tension and yearning that builds up during the constant stimulation.

Orgasm control is to prolong the powerful sexual sensations that occur during the final build-up to orgasm. . The physical demands of being kept in this highly excited state
for some time can highten a very pleasurable, state in the passive partner.

A caring active partner will also recieve pleasure from witnessing his/her partner in such an excited state.

Orgasm control demands a high degree of skill of the active partner, enough familiarity to be able to correctly react to their partner’s responses, and to get the intensity and timing of the stimulation just right.

If there is not enough stimulation or if it is slowed down too soon, the experience is not as intense as the passive partner had antisipated .

Too much stimulation or for too long allows the passive partner to reach the ‘boiling point’, causing the orgasm to occur too early. The real skill lies bewtween the lovers and knowing one’s partner, well enough to be able to keep them squirming to the very edge of orgasm, and then maximizing the experience.

Finally, and at a time of their choosing, the active partner will slowly bring the other right up to the point of orgasm as earlier, but this time continues and/or slightly increases the stimulation for the few extra seconds needed to drive their partner into
orgasm, and into a state of pure ecstasy.

As the active partner needs to already be familiar with the passive partner’s responses, this technique is more likely to succeed when used with established relationships, rather than more casual ‘one-off’, as a one night stand etc will not allow any partner to truely know the other ones body and how it works.

Orgasm control totally differs from the BDSM practices of orgasm denial, tie and
tease and tease and denial because the aim is the giving and receiving of the intense sensations involved, and the period of control is limited to a single encounter which ends in orgasm.

Solo masturbation allows for total control over the feelings and
timing of stimulation, one oneself. Many people practice certain forms of orgasm control by themselves.

This practise known as “stop-and-go” or “edging” is
where one will masturbate up until the moment before reaching point of
no return at which point climax results, then back down before
experiencing a climax.

By repeating this technique several times during a single session it will result in a stronger, more intense climax when they finally allow themselves to go “over the edge” to the point of no control. BINGO YOU HAVE ORGASM!

If you know your partner well enough and know their bodies, especially if your partner is female, you should know very well if she is faking it.

Physically a female cannot fake orgasm if she tries. Oh yeh sure we can all moan and groan and say “oooo baby, mmmm yeah”. That does not mean she had an orgasm just because you may have.

Her body will tell you whether she has faked it or not, as once orgasm is reached she has no control over her genitals spasming. It cant be helped fellas, and no her squeezing is not her orgasm. Any female can squeeze and control her muscles, its called pelvic floor muscle control. Orgasm is different, there is no control

There is a big difference between the two. Take notice and see for yourselves.

Try many different positions to get her there, or start off by arousing her with some kinky games just to get her in the mood

Giddy up!!

Last Modified: November 27th, 2007
Filed under: masturbation
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